Largely due to the perspective shift Gno has been helping me work on for some time now, I approached H very differently last night. I gave him a hug and told him "I am sorry I didn't see or hear how much you were struggling with things before the A. I am sorry for my part in why you were feeling lonely." H hugged me back very tightly and told me he appreciated that so much.
So then he goes into the bedroom for awhile and I can hear him playing his guitar, which he does a lot. I get on my laptop and am chatting in the alt.
H comes out and tells me he wants to play a song for me.
He plays "When you come around" by Deric Ruttan. Tells me he feels it is my "theme song" and that he is so grateful I did this for him.
And... let's just say Rocked's World was rocking and rolling last night... with passion and intensity.... and a H who clearly "feels something!" - whether he knows it or not. LOL
I wanted to share this because I think my validating of where he was at, and approaching him with compassion and love, opened up a level of emotional intimacy for him that was very important. I needed that perspective shift to happen first... thanks Gno!
