THINK OW AND H ARE NO MORE

[peacetoday]

I thought my x was the king of the crazies

Ive been here 3 years
I never saw any real connection
Ive seen touch and goes
In my situtaion a lot of touch and goes especially in the beginning
he would initaiate conversation with me regualrly
for a time I made myself available to him
to listen validate
I wanted o show him I wanted this and was willing to cahnge
we created positve connections many times
but he always left
he would reconnect again in a few days
this was probably a safety net for him
these MLC are giving up a lot
mine gave up everything

his W,family and kids
his home
his stuff
much of his clothes
all his savings
his credit
his sobriety (20 years in AA)
eventually his business
basically he walked away with OW ( a real prize) asnd a banged up car
thats it

Over time he still had touch and goes I think less as I detached more
and once I met BF( i year ago)- I totally became unavailable to XH so there was little time to connect..
so either way didnt work for me being abailable and being gone
nothing woke him up
he also distanced during that time, seemed to get worse and M OW
and eventually left the state
he has no contact now
peace