Good job on the flight and doing your 180's. My .02 is this, I think, and you will agree that your H is still in his crisis. What you do or don't do, I do not believe has much influence on the final outcome of your sich. Yes, you can make it worse, but you probably can't make it much better. You have to wait for his crisis to be over and try to survive until that time, what board you are on or how you act is irrelevant(at least in making him come out of this faster). He will be done cooking when he is done. No sooner.
Try not to live on his every positive or negative day. You are going to have those. Life is ups and downs. Try to react so that it is the easiest for YOU! Yes DB'ing can help in the short term, and the long term but it will not end his fog any sooner, only time will fix that. And it is an unknown quantity.
I hope you have a great passover. I will be trying to enjoy mine. Don't eat too much matzoh.
