k, I'm experiencing the same with my WH.

Originally Posted By: kjensen
The thing that has always confounded me during this journey are the times when H sounds like 'himself', rational, thoughtful, even slightly empathetic ;)- makes me think that maybe H is 'sane' and really just doesn't want to be married to me anymore and I'm the one in deep denial.


Mine is carring, almost loving sometimes it confuses you when they leash out half an hour later. I also observed that the "nice" is when I'm nice and agreeable to everything he wants. The moment he feels challenged in any way he leashes out.

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Then H is irrational, defensive and reactive, acting juvenile and I can believe in MLC and see that perhaps I am the saner one at the moment...

So true

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Those moments of seeing our 'old' spouse are hard-reminding us of what once was, of what we are missing...


Also reminds me that the person I love is still in there somewhere


M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO