Just another friend here saying Gno is right. He offers a male perspective that is really helpful. Yes your husband loves you. No he isn't (or can't?) show you in your ll right now.
Is there a way you can specifically bring some of these up to H? Have you done this before? What worked and didn't work?
Good job on telling H you needed to hear him talk about how he is over the A with compassion and empathy for you. YOu stood up for yourself and that takes strength.
Meanwhile, keep meeting your own needs...affirmations? Treats for RW this weekend while H is away? Telling yourself how valuable you are and how much you deserve...don't stop working on your own self esteem while working on your R.
