One day at a time....

[gutwrenching]

RW,
I couldn't possibly offer anything better than what Gno did...but not sure you are looking at some key points here. Despite his depression and HIS issues, he is talking to you, he is being open and honest. That is more than a start. Although he isn't telling you what you want and need to hear, is trying hard, he is taking risks, he is working on the "us", he is letting you into his fear and his shame. There is good in this...there is hope for the future in this. You have been so strong for so long, you just keep it up now, because it is working. He is trusting you with his feelings, thoughts, and emotions. The rest will come, you will help him get there.