I think you should give this serious thought over the next month. If my M wasn't over a decade, I don't know that I'd wait around a year or so for H to "decide" either. Some may disagree, but I see your point about moving countries, new everything and starting over complicating the situation tremendously. That process could take a year in itself. Then you would have to move again to where he is stationed to work on R IF he decides to? It's a lot to think about.
