No longer sitting on the fence

[flowmom]

1. Give just a little more information. (How/Where do you draw the line between giving more information and staying mysterious at the same time?)

In my case it might be telling a funny story about something that happened with the kids. That's being "generous" without disclosing anything about my personal life.

2. Ask open-ended questions in ways that express interest. (Again how/where do you draw the line? I don't want to come across as pursuing.)

Sometimes it can be just looking at them expectantly (without saying anything) once they've said something...and they continue talking.

This morning H emailed me about a tax related question. Rather than emailing him back I picked up the phone and called. During the conversation I think I accomplished both points above.

I haven't phoned because I think it would feel invasive to my H...but if your H responded well then it sounds like a good call.

1. H mentioned that his brother and family were in town so I asked some open ended questions regarding their visit. H responded with more details then I would have expected. (baby step or just being talkative?)

That is a babystep. When H moved out he wouldn't say anything to me at all. So when he says anything beyond the bare minimum it's considered a babystep.

2. I have the kids for Easter weekend so I shared with H my plans and extended an invite for him to join us (kids and I) for Easter brunch. H declinded. Without missing a beat the conversation moved on. Was I to aggressive here?

I think it's fine because you didn't react to him declining. Wait for a while before the next invitation though.