flowmom | need to commit to myself

[flowmom]

I'm sorry that IC thing happened and I hope it did not hurt their marriage, but it is also funny. What in the world could have happened that almost led to blows in MC between BIL and C? To have been a fly on THAT wall...

Oh, I got the blow-by-blow, believe me. Basically my sis told the C everything from her POV in the first session, then when BIL went in with her the C just started badgering BIL really aggressively from the get-go without establishing any connection, hearing his side of the story, etc. The C talked about the situation in really black and white terms and acted like BIL was totally in the wrong. My sister and BIL repeatedly asked the C to reduce the intensity and my sister stood up for BIL, but the C persisted. It was really bizarre. The issue was about standard in-law family stuff...not really a black and white issue. The testosterone really got pumping and that's when it the possibility of it getting physical came up. And that's really not BIL's style. Knowing my sister and BIL very well, it was the C who majorly screwed up. Fortunately I think my sister and BIL's M won't be damaged because it was so over-the-top crazy that they can discount him. It's when it's more insidious that it's more dangerous.