He said I always could tell him what to do. I asked him, "so if I tell you to march in the house right now and stay would you do it"? He said "probably".
So you say you want emotional connection and communication and then he COMMUNICATES to you that he would come home if you told him to....
And you didn't tell him to come home?
I thought the whole idea behind Dbing is to bust the divorce...
Do what works....
Tell him you have decided that you want him to come home.... If he was telling you the truth, then he will come home won't he? Or are you going to tell me that now you don't want him to come home because?
Sometimes people ARE actually communicating and can't even recognize it because it isn't the type of communicating that they want. The WS keeps on telling them things and telling them things and the BS just keeps right on complaining how the WS won't communicate with them.
When in fact the WS HAS been communicating.....
It seems to me that he communicated to you that he wants you to tell him what to do. He also said that if you told him to come home he probably would...
Am I missing something here. Tell him that is what you want and see what his answer is. If he says yes, wouldn't he also want you to tell him what you want him to do for the reconciliation to work?
