How to approach W about OM

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OIN - Let me say - I know nothing but I can offer insight on the shy thing. My W had the same reaction suddenly to seeing me change clothes. I was sleeping in the spare room but still using my shower in the master.

I at first said 'what's the big deal' and that got a very heated reaction so the next day I moved all my stuff to the other bathroom. Immediately changed her attitude, then she says 'you don't have to shower there'. I still did.