Thanks Puppy, good point about d - I'll return them and I actually was going to by the end of the day but I actually had moved on to other things but good point.

Meeting with L on Monday for quick consult just to ensure I understand my rights if this turns out to be what I'm thinking.

I love W but WILL NOT be a doormat - the pros on here know what they are are speaking about. All of this work on being confident, calm and collected reminded me of an interaction W and I had when we first dated.

We had been out maybe twice and she mentioned she had kissed some guy on a date around the same time. Now we were just getting to know each other so it wasn't infidelity or anything. I recall saying to her something like 'thanks for telling me' and she said 'you aren't jealous'. I'm sure I said something like 'I don't compete with other men for women's attention' and then I moved on to something else.

The reason I bring this up is she chased me like a dog after a bone after that interaction. It's these types of things that I knew about myself in the past and seemed to have let go over the years.

One thing is for sure - I'll be a better man no matter what the outcome


M 40
W 39
D 4
M 5 years
Bomb dropped 08/09
In house separation