Grit- glad to hear about your new hobby..not so glad to hear about your fall!!!! ouch. As they say...get back up on that horse.
I read about your sister on your post..I would really love to get inside of her head and try to understand what is going on. 2 kids and a great H..sounds like a no brainer. I just shake my head.
I understand the difference between our spouses...mine is definitely more manipulative. Some days I feel like we are on the same page...but other days I just feel like I lost him. I think it is too early for MC too...I still don't think he is ready..and actually I am not sure that I am ready either.
Can you picture your life back with your W? As more time passes..I find it more difficult to imagine him back here. For so many months before he left...he was so mean..even abusive at times...the gaslighting, criticism, stonewalling.. I think most of that was because of his A...but not sure how much of that is his new personality or his depression/personality disorder. It is so hard to tell.
With his A being over for only 3 weeks...I still think he is in a fog most of the time. With her still in his office..I don't know how long this process of detaching from her is going to take..if it is really taking place at all.
NC with H today. I haven't iniated contact with him in over a week. I am going to really stick this out and see what happens. nothing to lose.
