How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

Allen,
After taking a step back and thinking about my approach when it comes to complimenting I can see where it would be considered PURSUIT. In the times where I have complimented her it was rather spontaneous. Nothing she brought on but rather something I thought needed to be said. I also like the 3rd party idea and will start implementing that.

Thanks for all your advice so far, I truly appreciate it. That is why I post my daily interactions with my W so I can get feedback of what I can improve on or what I should keep doing. I would say I am doing a better job of not getting frustrated with her rejections and becoming even more patient.

We had a good time at the concert last night. She said "we have to go again." We watched a movie together when we returned home. After my W went to the kitchen to get herself something to eat and asked if I would like some as well and I said "yes, that would be great, thank you" I walk out there and there was 'some' for me and none for her. She said it was the last of 'it' and I should take it she would grab something else. I insist that she have 'it' and I would be the one to find something else but she insist herself. Rather than go back and forth I accepted and thanked her. When I was done I told her how good it was.

I hope these are all signs of things improving. I am not getting ahead of myself, I know it will take a lot more work and much more time and I am NOT celebrating too much over the little steps we have made.

Just before she went to bed tonight she could not find something, I heard her getting upset. She asked if I knew where it was I told her no and she lashed out at me and has now gone to bed upset but I remained calm and hopefully she realizes I was only trying to help.

We have been here before in the past 9 weeks where things are relatively good between us and then she will say "I am still leaving, I am only trying to co-exist." I am very weary.