D$-No I'm not saying I completely disagree. More of what snod said, and to some extent you also in defining it.
As far as my sitch goes-I am far from having a wonderful relationship. But for me I see it turning a corner at least, and she is starting to actually give me feedback and acting like she is getting a grasp on what she wants. She has said that being nice, when I clearly had plenty of reason not to be has impressed her and influences her to reciprocate. On the last go around that did not seem to matter much most of the time.
I have been distancing myself, although not fully detached, and yes, that has helped immensely. I've let her do some of the pursuing as of late, and she seems to be ok with it. I am trying to not act like I'm caught though, and that MUST continue until the time is right.
I think I agree with more of the post then not, but as snod said-each is different and the LBS must decide (mostly trial/error) what works for him/her/them.
