Thanks so much for the great advice. H has been trying to bait me into conflict recently. I also noticed him fishing for information about what I know about him and the OW. I am making a real effort to keep my cool about all this.
I did notice he deleted all his text messages to her on his phone (grabbed it from my toddler who had gotten a hold of it to play with and decided to take a peek). This raises red flags for me, as he did something similar years ago online. He was IMing with some woman but had her screen name renamed as one of his guy friend's names so I would think the person on his IM was him and would only keep the logs deleted under that persons name. Well now it's the same with this woman and the texts. If he has nothing to hide why is she namelessly listed under his contacts as "work number" and why does he delete everything they say to each other?
Anyway, not raising to his bait will be a definite challenge to me, as well as not making snarky comments about his "girlfriend" (I'm ashamed to admit I made one earlier today). I'm going to try my best to take the high ground on this and be the better person. Easier said than done for sure!! Thanks also for the tips on how to talk to his friends and family.
So, just to make sure I've got this straight, I am keeping mum on what I know about his contact with the OW, and how much I'm watching. I'm not going to fight with him about it or anything else. I'm still not sure about talking to friends and family about H and the OW, I feel that just might push him away but I already talked to his father and I think I might talk to a mutual friend as well and see how it goes...
