No longer sitting on the fence

[motherof3]

How to build better relationships per Gottman:

It takes one small interaction at a time.

1. Give just a little more information. (How/Where do you draw the line between giving more information and staying mysterious at the same time?)

2. Ask open-ended questions in ways that express interest. (Again how/where do you draw the line? I don't want to come across as pursuing.)

This morning H emailed me about a tax related question. Rather than emailing him back I picked up the phone and called. During the conversation I think I accomplished both points above.

1. H mentioned that his brother and family were in town so I asked some open ended questions regarding their visit. H responded with more details then I would have expected. (baby step or just being talkative?)

2. I have the kids for Easter weekend so I shared with H my plans and extended an invite for him to join us (kids and I) for Easter brunch. H declinded. Without missing a beat the conversation moved on. Was I to aggressive here?