No longer sitting on the fence

[flowmom]

Mo3...I think it's hard for you because you've had so little contact with your H. Every time you see him or talk to him you're going to feel some shock. It's going to take time to normalize things between you.

H and I are quite distant from one another, with high walls, but we see each other every day. And there is starting to be some normalizing. H has told a joke twice and has smiled a couple of times at things that I've said. Babysteps!

I'm creeping towards being a bit more friendly with H. But I don't think of is as a favour or reward to H in response to him dumping me. It's something that I think of as something that is more comfortable for me, and something that normalizes things for our children. I don't want things to be tense and strained indefinitely. I'm showing leadership in how we treat one another.

Thanks for the update. It's great that you're being mindful about your time on the forum. I know that's something I need to look at.