I read your posts jasper and I feel deeply for your pain. Frustrating to say the least.

Just a little more to consider (or not) from today.

w called last night while I was out GAL with d then realized I wasn't home so she called my cell which I proceeded to ignore. She did not call back later to talk with d.

I get an email today at work from w 'how is d, I miss her'. I deleted it and moved on with my day. Tonight after work w called daughter so like all little kids 'she' put it on speaker phone. 'hi d I miss you' 'where did you go last night' 'where is daddy' okay I love you put daddy on the phone.

W asks me 'how is d' 'I miss her' 'where'd you go last night'. So I told her we just went out. 'oh, you didn't answer my email'. So I told her 'I was too busy'

The only thing I wish is I ended this conversation. She hummed and hahhed while I sat silently listening and then said goodbye.

I just thought it was an interesting dynamic considering I've stopped all communication.

Oh then another weird thing. MIL calls (she knows w is out of town) and asks if she needs to come by and let in our cleaning lady. Now she could have forgotten but I know w told her I would handle it. I heard them speak about it on the phone. This was less than 10 minutes after I hung the call from w to d.

I could be reading into stuff but this whole set of interactions was bizarre.


M 40
W 39
D 4
M 5 years
Bomb dropped 08/09
In house separation