I believe it was in DB where they say sometimes the other spouse makes us become the WAS, even though it is not what we want. They can make our lives so unbearable, that we almost have no choice but to walk away. That way, they don't have to be the bad guy. That's exactly what happened in my sitch as it seems to be somewhat in yours as well. You shouldn't feel guilty for not wanting to be treated like dirt. You have given it your all and continue to do so, but you shouldn't have to put up with that treatment for the rest of your life. I know you don't want to give up too early, but only you can truely know your situation the best. If you think there is still a chance that H could change and you have the endurance to endure it, then maybe you keep with it. But if H continues to completely resist change, then there's not a lot you can do. You're just going to have to really evaluate H to see where that all stands. I don't know how you get thru to him though - you've tried talking, you tried ignoring - somehow, he just needs a big 2X4!
Hope S feels better!
Me 27; H 28; S 2 Togeth 9; M 4 Sep 11/14/08 EA OW1 Sep 08 EA OW2 Mar 09 EA OW3 Jun 10
