The Good Soil Of Love

[Dr LOve]

CL,
I can relate to this totally. And I understand what you meant by the other woman being “Forward”
There is different ways of asking the same question and you have to be there to understand the tone.
As for being reluctant to admit she was your wife? I have been there also. Now speaking for me. Part of that reluctance was because my wife did not act like my wife but also I had reservations about possibly blowing any opportunities of meeting another woman. Now do not get me wrong... I have never cheated on my wife but when you are in that “Limbo” you want to keep some doors open.


My W has resumed her spending the night with her dance friend, at a pace of about weekly. She is transparent about where she is going, and who she is with. It is frustrating to me, given the increased connection these past several months.

Whenever I post about this behavior, I get a response advocating a zero tolerance approach, and that I should "drop the atom bomb" on the M, and give her an ultimatum. It's easy advice to give, when I'm the one who has to unbalance my life.

I also understand what you are saying here. I don’t think I could do what you are doing but in reality nobody here could say what they would do unless it was happening to them.
I always said “I would kick my wife out in the street if I EVER caught her cheating on me”
That was until it happened... Now here I am 3 years later
You are the one that has to live with your decisions. But sometimes buddy you do need to sit back and look at what you want and what you have... And are you happy...