I did go see a L to separate the finances. H said ...
1) Don't do it, it will cause us to argue 2) I will fight you over custody and finances 3) He told his lawyer that we were actively reconciling and that he did not want to file.
But we're not reconciling, I mean he wont live with us, he keeps setting up his alternate new life in another city, and he still blames me for almost everything that goes wrong for him and went wrong with our relationship. He still says he can't make up his mind on whether or not he wants to be with me (after 23 years of marriage!!).
One close friend suggested it was just a ploy to significantly reduce payments because he made much less money this year then any year previously, or probably in the future; he wants to move the calendar year of separation. Which would mean I would have to move the kids AGAIN, 3rd time in 1 year, which would be awful.
How do you know if they really want to be with you, or if they are just positioning themselves better? It's SO hard to trust anything after what H did, even though my heart wishes we could be all together again.
