OMG! This is an oldie that I created many, many years ago!
dbs, What works for one, will not work for others. That's the reason you must take what you read w/a grain of salt and apply only those things that will help you and your situation.
Actually, this information worked for quite a number of posters back when it was posted. Many of us had the "dancers" and we had to learn not to be sucked back into their drama. We each had to learn how the dance played out in our respective situations. You are one of the fortunate ones that continue to have a nice relationship. Count your blessings for that.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
