Well, well, well...interesting. WH has decided to bill for hosting of OW's web site - 1 year prepayment. Starting in March...so she still received months of free service...I'll leave that be at this point.
Going to have to make the invoice (hate looking at her name). I just wish that I could add couple of zero's to the total. (For pain & suffering)
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OP - From a business point of view, this pitiful contract won't save us, and it's like pouring vinegar into a wound (my wound). It just aggravates the heck out of me that I'm forced to have this woman as a client
But I'll be good and shut-up about it in front of him
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Gosh Mila...sorry you have to deal with her in your business. Its not easy I know. My H's OW lived on the same road as me....still does. Had to pass her house everyday and see my H there. NOW she is dating someone else in my neighborhood...I just wish she would MOVE far away!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
My H's OW lived on the same road as me....still does. Had to pass her house everyday and see my H there.
Oh my, kissak that must have been horrible. At least I don't have to see them together.
When my WH had his first affair long time ago. The OW worked for our company. I was her boss. I saw her and them together in our business everyday. How screwed up was that...
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I actually told him when I discovered about the OW. "If you'd put as much effort into our relationship as you did into the affair all the things you said that you were unhappy about would have been solved".
Almost verbatim to what I said to my H!
Amazing how they'll go to the ends of the earth for someone that, compared to us, they only met yesterday...
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~ This Diamond now SHINES!! ;-p ~
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Diamondgirl isn't that the truth. And in my case still telling me how much he loves me and that I'm the best, while already screwing and sending love poems to the OW. Yuk.
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
My H once told me that I was an amazing, wonderful and beautiful wife.....just not the amazing, wonderful and beautiful wife for him.
BUT finally now I guess he is lucky that Some other man didnt end up with this amazing, wonderful and beautiful wife!!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
kissak, that's similar to the words I heard when he was leaving me. He only added "I would be with you if I didn't fall in love with OW".
In his "good-bye" letter he said among other things and I quote: "We have been together for many, many years. I have so many amazing and beautiful memories; we have had amazing times together. We were good together; no we were great together"
and another quote "I'm sorry that I'm causing you pain; being in love with another woman. I didn't expect this to happen, I fell in love and there wasn't a way back. My heart was marked"
K, I'm so happy for you that your H is waking up and yes indeed he is the lucky one that you were still there for him after all that he's done. OMGosh 3 years, you are amazing.
I have so many questions for you. How do you deal with all that pain he's caused, are you being able to forgive and still love him as before? How has you love for him changed after all of that? Do you see the same person in him as before the Bomb or has he really changed?
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Well, I will answer your last question first....I see a different person in him now than before the bomb. He doesnt take me for granted now. I do however see the "old" him back in ways. Good ways, things that disppeared during the last 3 years. I see him handle things differently. Of course he has been in therapy for over a year dealing with all of this.
My Love for him has changed. I still love him, but I too have to fall back in love with him. It is hard after all the pain, but I am just one of those people that forgive probably all too easily. Im still working on it. Every time I pass the OW on the road or see things that remind me of the pain, I try to just take my mind to somewhere else. That OW took up way too much space in my head for so long, Im not gonna let her do it anymore!
This has not been an easy 3 years...not at all! lol but I know that whether he came back or not, I would have been OK. And you will too! I guess it just takes time for most of us to figure that out.
Just keep reminding yourself that these guys will rewrite alot of history and say things that they may not mean later.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
