Oh G, I am so sorry. That is really horrible. My H at least had the courtesy to let me know that the papers were coming. However prepared you are, it stills hurts like mad and makes it so real. I am sure that nothing I say will make it better, just know that you are not alone and I really do understand.
As for WHY, maybe she cant put it into words. I know that if anyone had to ask me I couldnt give them a one sentence answer. It does seem mean though that she hasnt even discussed it with you and given you a valid reason for wanting to end your M.
All I can give you is the advise you have given me. Have faith and stay strong.
Me 37 years young!! S11 S7 T22 M14 D final 13.05.2010 Today is the first day of the rest of my life!!! First post: D Day has arrived