New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

She likes the perks of being M...She's comfortable where things are right now. She gets to watch from a distance while still having the money and support of the M. Who wouldn't like that?

Michelle: So what shall I do? Do I need to be firmer, stricter and limit her access to any financial support? Any money restriction will inevitably affect the Boys as well one way or another. And I don't want that. Our Boys haven't done anything. I read on this board a lot of LBS who cut all financial support to send a message to the "cake eater". They say it's setting firm boundaries. It's all about boundaries I guess. What am I doing wrong? What do I need to change?

I haven't closed the joint checking account. I opened up another checking account for me and only deposit a set amount of money in the joint account for my W's use. It's the equivalent of my BAH. It's still a good chunk of money as long as my W doesn't spend out of control(which she doesn't).

Anyway. What's your take on my "boundaries"? Are they good boundaries? Too soft? Too harsh? What's your guidance?

JR