FM I think I did actually handle it well. Used to fight back react. Instead I simply confronted him calmly on what he wanted and all he could do was have a fit. So I whipped something up without getting into it - I needed to eat too. H did respond - this was like a 180 for me - and he calmed down and joined us!
Hugs, Hope. Don't go anywhere just because your game plan is altered. I haven't seen anyone checking our "qualifications" at the door here and if they show up, I'll sneak you in the back door!
Me38,H:38,S:7 Married:6/99 Bomb:7/04 Sep.:5/05 D Filed:3/08;Final 1/10 Piecing:11/09 H moved back:09/10 Current thread: http://tiny.cc/htcty
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
Going w H and S in the new airplane. Feeling completely panicked and freaked out - how can I be hanging out with them and Dbing after everything this week?
Don't be. Calm down. Remember... you've achieved your BEST result when you weren't defending yourself.
Originally Posted By: Hope4Luv
how can I be hanging out with them and Dbing after everything this week?
Easy... by treating him like a lab rat and monitoring his reactions as you conduct little experiments on him.... and having fun watching the results.
For everyone else reading.... give H4L a standing ovation. She did an OUTSTANDING job the last night. I was hoping she would share it with everyone. I was blown away.
I used to think H was a fly caught in a glass bottle, I would look at him from outside spinning, jerking the bottle form time to time with something metal (enjoying it-LOL) trying to find the way out, the bottle would be open...
I used to think H was a fly caught in a glass bottle, I would look at him from outside spinning, jerking the bottle form time to time with something metal (enjoying it-LOL) trying to find the way out, the bottle would be open...
I love flying H4L!! Choppers are my fave, but small planes will do too . Try to see the symbolism of rising above the mundane realities and soaring up in the clouds...
I'm looking forward to the update H4L! Ready to clap
LOL Kalni
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
... and then they say men are evil!!!!
. Try to see the symbolism of rising above the mundane realities and soaring up in the clouds...