In my opinion, mistake #1 was allowing the "I love you" statement to remain in the NC letter. OP for the most part, don't like it when they are kicked to the curb in favor of the LBS, especially with such a short timespan of their relationship.
Right, this happened before I had time to think or take a step back. I just don't know what to do about it. Another NC letter? I know I need to have some clarity and request what I need.
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I also would not ask of the WAS what to do. You know YOU need to feel secure with the situation, and myself like any other cheated on spouse/"SO" would be demanding that all efforts to to sway the OP from contacting be followed through.
Good point. I think this hit on one of my insecurities. Thanks for the advice.
