Take some time to write out your boundary. Since it is by phone.
I would assume 4 would be Have speach written out before me. I continue to expose to friends of the marriage.
I then take time to go for a very long walk and I keep walking to clear my head. Just the sound of life around you.
Then you call her and you say what you wrote. Then you hang up.
Take control. You are the one who is acting by george. She is reacting. I am not going to reread your thread. I know you have worked long and hard on this. But IMHO. You need to show grace , tough love and the high road. You need to state your boundaries when you are ready and prepared. And you do it. Set a stop watch for 3 minutes when you call her. And you call her when your ready. If your speech is over 3 minutes its too long. And if she does not answer. Then you know you are still ready when she calls you. And when she does you put your hand up in the air and you stay.
STOP. You are going to listen to me right now. If you say one word before I am done I am hanging this phone up.
Speak.
Hang the phone up.
Turn phone off.
Go do what you got to do to release the stress from the day.
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