Too Late For Us?

[mrbt]

I signed divorce papers on the 17th; my wife has not signed the papers yet.

Today I asked her "what are your plans? what will you do? where do you plan to go?" Up until today, I always got an "I don't know" or a "maybe this maybe that" kind of answer.

Today she told me she has been looking for a cheap apartment locally. This is not what I expected. I expected to see her move to our home state (1000 miles away) close to where the EA/OM lives. She claims the OM is no longer a factor and that she does not communicate with him. I have not been able to confirm this one way or the other.

She is seeing a counselor and this is the reason she gives for staying local. She is about to start treatment for PTSD and wants to see if this helps her or not. She says if it doesn't help she will go (leave the state?).

I am not sure what to do at this point. I need to come up with a $20K in cash as part of the divorce settlement (half the value of a residential lot we own). Do I give her the money and send her on her way? Or, do I delay and hope something changes? I am not obligated to produce the cash until 30 days after the divorce.

On one hand, I like the idea of her being close (I still love and care about her). On the other hand, I know I will have a difficult time moving on if she is nearby.