How do I act?

[mrbt]

he flat out said "No, its not changing my mind at all" I said is it helping shift ur mind at all... he said No..... he said he has made it clear that this is his decision and what not...so i asked ok so what have we been doing?? what was that?? he straight up told me in my eyes that I do not make him happy..... so i said so i should leave? and he said well I dont want you to leave, i enjoy your company......... wtf??!!!

Wow Meg. This sounds just like a conversation between me and my wife. . . I think this was the kind of talk we had just before I decided to move out. In retrospect, I think I should have stayed and asked her to leave if she is unhappy. Now she is happily living in our apartment and I am living in a smaller apartment across the parking lot. I think the more experienced DBers here would call this cake-eating. He wants to comfort of your company but doesn't want to commit to the marriage [insert expletives here].