That is what I am asking myself daily. Some days I get angry and think let some other sap have her. But then I remember the good times. Keep in mind, you are only getting one side of the story. I hope I'm not coloring the sitch too much in my favor.
I'm sure she would apply a lot of her own negative adjectives to me. Maybe I'm a codependent and I am addicted to helping. I need to be needed. I can fix almost anything, maybe I think I can fix this, too.
She would say in WAS-speak, she has felt alone for years. I don't talk to her. When she is on the road and calls to check in, I don't want to talk to her. When she gets home, it is like I don't care if she is there or not. I've said some snarky remarks to reinforce that "it not mattering if she is there or not". And that I won't support her in her social events.
She is smart, kind, and I want to say considerate (just not always towards me). She incredibly driven when it comes to work. I'm stupid proud of her accomplishments in her career.
We still have fun together, as long as it is something she wants to do and within her comfort zone.
This has been a long time coming. Years ago her mother (who also works outside the home) told her she needed to work less and spend time with her H. She was very upset at that.
