future, I'm telling you this is an autopilot mechanism that goes on with WAW's who are about to embark on their first sexual encounter outside of their marriage while they are married, I'm not making it up, I have read about this very thing happening so many times that it is no longer something I'm surprised about, I fully expect it and since it's something that is so common place (yet most men are largely unaware of), i feel it's more of an autopilot process. They're making themselves look good for the OM, they want his approval, he (the OM) is high value to these women and they want to please him, it's exciting for these WAW's because they haven't felt like this in a long time, it makes them giddy and excited that they have someone new that they want to impress and these WAW's don't want to impress their LBH's, they want to leave them which means: no sex, making all the decisions, bossing their spouses around, dictating what will happen, being aggressive, mean, cruel, disrespectful, etc. These WAW's are also the same women who will act the exact opposite with the OM: feminine, submissive, laugh at every joke, talk for hours about their lives, hopes and dreams, extremely sexual, very touchy/feely, very "hungry", very agreeable, very respectful, accomodating, etc.
robx, the intel I got supports your statement 100%. That's why Puppy says be careful about intel, because "it will destroy your soul". I have never been through anything more emotionally and psychologically destructive in my life.
I don't know what it meant, but as my sitch progressed, my W started exhibiting those OM attributes toward me, except the sexual part, and I was starting to wonder if that was next. As I looked stronger to her, she started treating me with respect, kindness, acting feminine and submissive, stroking my ego, etc. We started going out as a couple, and had a great time. I was a confused mess. I think I was close to having her switch back to me, but as I said, when she'd really test me, I'd fail, because I so much wanted my family back together. Seeing my kids crying was my achilles heal. It's so frustrating, because I don't see that as weakness. She knew all she had to do was say the word, and I'd take her back.
Only now has that changed, and it's probably too late, as our R is essentially destroyed. The only way to give me a workable platform on which to rebuild our marriage was for her to express extreme remorse for what she did, but she wouldn't. In fact, she said she couldn't. How can she express remorse for something that was so exciting and enjoyable?
