My Pastor would say that the H is the head of the home, but the W is the neck that turns the head. I like to think she is the "heart" rather than the neck. (lol) But either way, she is just as important......they have different roles to fill, as I see it. It is not a popular idea with many people but I think anytime you have two heads.....you have a monster.
I'm glad to know you think that way. You've got the right footing.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!