WAW Using God II

[MrBond]

"She knows she's wrong and a "sinner" (her words)."
"The only thing I can get from this whole deal is that she feels she can't break the affair and needs God's help. "
"she needs God's guidance and feels she needs to give herself to Him in order to get it."

All this points to one thing...no personal responsibility. Sounds like she's looking for a scapegoat rather than saying it was all her fault. Now she can say, hey God said it was okay for me to do all this.

I really don't think it's a religious issue. Just a psychological one. You might want to try navigating away from religious talk and start getting her to accept personal responsibility for her actions. Start with something small.

For example, my wife never apologized for anything since this ordeal started two years ago. I thought I tried everything and still nothing changed. So there was a time that something had happened and I figured, what the heck? I told her I felt hurt and expected an apology. Lo and behold, she stopped and said she didn't realize she was hurting me, so apologized right after.

You never know what will work, but getting them to take personal responsibility is the first step.