advice on OW's attempts at contact

[dday101798]

3. Should SI write OW again regarding no contact and staying for love. First and only note to her was day of exposure and stated, 'I love you but want to work on my marriage.'

In my opinion, mistake #1 was allowing the "I love you" statement to remain in the NC letter. OP for the most part, don't like it when they are kicked to the curb in favor of the LBS, especially with such a short timespan of their relationship.

I also would not ask of the WAS what to do. You know YOU need to feel secure with the situation, and myself like any other cheated on spouse/"SO" would be demanding that all efforts to to sway the OP from contacting be followed through.

"Blocking e-mails" and failing to answer calls, to me is not effective and a questionable move in my book. Tell "SO" the next time that phone rings and it's OP, they will answer it and they will demand, not request to be left alone.

dday got any secrets, how do you forgive.

Forgiveness, to me, only comes with time and reflection. And A LOT of both.