WAW and me in 11th hour!!!!

[Ken62]

Puppy,

Can you give me specifics of what you think I should do? Should I go dark? Do I let her initiate all contact? What things should I be saying to her when she initiates contact? Treat me like a 10 year old and lay it out for me. This DBing stuff is hard and I want to get it right.

I think you may be right about the "aren't willing to" because it seems to conflict with what Coach said earlier (although he said that before we knew about OM still being in the picture) and also what my DB coach said which was also before we knew about OM and that is why I have scheduled another call for tomorrow. I have a finite time of a little over 2 months before W leaves and the D is final. Next week is her BD. There are potentially a lot of opportunities for me to show her the new me but if she doesn't think of us as married how do I even act like a husband. She doesn't see me as a husband. I believe that she does see me as a friend but I have also seen signs that she is starting to see me in a different light than she did in our M. I may be delusional but I think I do see it. I know she is operating from emotions like robx is saying. She knows that I have started to see other women and in some ways I think that is possibly a relief for her because she doesn't have to feel guilty about her relationship. Maybe I have all of this wrong because I am trying to think logically but it's all I got.

Thanks,

Ken