tta- did he ask you any questions that you need to respond to? If not..I would not respond. I know easier said than done (my H starts bombarding me with messages via every form of technology I own when I don't respond in a timely manner)
My H has said almost the same exact things...'how will I ever face your family'...'how can I ever make girl jokes in front of your brothers again' (H had an A and I have 3 brothers) 'there is so much damage...maybe it is best to just move on'. There are bigger fish to fry at this point...and family and friend opinions should not be the basis of the decision to continue or end your M.
It is hard to stay dark..or even dim..but when you are successful doing that..you might get a different reaction from him. It appears that he is telling you the same thing over and over again. Perhaps by you changing your approach with him...you can spark a change in him. His wooaaa-is me..I screwed up..look what I am doing to you..attitude has been continuing for some time. Show him that you are OK- he hasn't ruined you instead of just telling him that. Just a thought. If one approach isn't working..try something new. What do you have to lose?
