It scared me when you talked about leaving clothes behind, taking marital aids, and cucumbers
LOL. Ahem. Marital aids are a lot *like* cucumbers. Get it yet?
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She got laid over the weekend! The edge is off!
That's what I came up with. But here's the things I can't get over. The weekend after she went missing, I questioned her about the OM and she told me where he lived. She didn't know I found out where she was the lost weekend. Here are my questions:
Why tell me? If it was me, I wouldn't.
The next day we go on a date. Why bother going if you are having an A and have checked out already.
Then I flat out accused her of the A. I know cheaters become great liars, but she said,"I don't know why you think I'm having some torrid A?" And I guess I believed her, or wanted to believe it.
At that point she pushed again for the D. Why not play on my fears and just say, "Yes I am. I'm having an A and I'm in love with the OM and want to be with him." Even if she wasn't having an A, just to get the D rolling. That's what I would do.
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Stop w/the REQUIREMENT of her calling you every 2-3 days.
It was never a requirement. I said I'd *like* it if she called me periodically during the week. She was already volunteering to call me before the couples session. She would usually say she would call at a certain time, but then wouldn't.
She doesn't have to do any of this. With her gone, she doesn't have to see me, call me, or go to MC. But she does anyway. Our MC can't tell me because of confidentiality what the W has said, but the MC is all over my concerns of an A. I have also expressed my concerns of the value of couples MC, if not only for my own direction in IC. She seems to think my W is willing to work in MC. The A hasn't come up.
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If you don't call her, either, she'll come sniffing around.
I'm not so sure she will. Even if she realized what a horrible mistake she made, she would feel so guilty about it, she would say to herself,"This was my doing. I deserve to be alone for this. He deserves someone better than me." That's what scares me about the LRT in this case.
