I'm not in much of a position to give advice, but you have to settle in for the long haul. My W can be pretty much the same way. She wouldn't talk and when she did, she would be all pissy and nagative about everything. Then, she would be nice, touchy feely, almost normal. That would last no more than two days and, BAM, back to super bitch. The roller coaster is brutal. I would tear myself up wondering what I said to make her go from nice to a$$ again. It is her, not you. You have to be even keeled and let her be or act however she want. Don't be a jerk, just be a good person and a good Dad.
You are not alone. Hang in there and stay strong. I am still working on all of this myself and come here for reassurance and the 2x4 when I need it. This board really does help so don't be shy and post a lot. Good luck!
Thanks for the reply idontunderstand. I am in this for the long haul and avoiding all the "family" advice to let it go. I've had the ILYBDLY talk and the I'm done finished talk and the I want a separation talk. I'm seeing the wedding rings on and off (now they are off) and going through the phase of her going out and not telling me were (I don't ask). There is no OP for either of us. The most difficult thing is that we live together and work together at the same place so getting away from each other is hard. Oh yeah, there is no physical contact or ILYs either. W is turning 40 this year and I think there is something to that as well. Help! The aliens have taken my wife! Lost Dad
Me 44 Her BIG 40 D 13 D 11 S 9 M'd 14yrs not in love bomb Sept 09 Wanting Separation Jan 10 Me trying to DB I don't hate my wife. I hate what she is doing.
