Anyone, I'm kind of at a loss here at the moment. The "deadlock" has been on going for a few weeks and nothing has really changed between my W and I. I've been doing the household things that she complained about me not doing for quite a while (for me not her, I'd have to do them any way if she left) and I've worked hard at improving time/relationship with my kids. Now, it seems that there is a quiet competition going on between my wife and I with the kids. As I get more involved with my kids, W is coming home from work and her (happy) interacting with the kids seems forced and fake to me. I'm working on GAL with different things from what I did before and trying to include my kids. I think the bigger part of the stalemate is that W thinks she can leave the M but not leave the house. What to do there? I'm not helping her with any discussions of a separation till my thoughts are in the right place. W claims she has been thinking about this for a few years so she can't expect me to just up and change my thoughts and feelings in five months. The problem is that my gut (if I can trust it) feeling is that if I give it more time, W will reconsider and open up. Is my thinking wrong here? -Lost Dad
Me 44 Her BIG 40 D 13 D 11 S 9 M'd 14yrs not in love bomb Sept 09 Wanting Separation Jan 10 Me trying to DB I don't hate my wife. I hate what she is doing.
