K, you always provide good advice and I'm not going to argue with you. LOL.
OK, let me explain WHY I'm telling Flo to be a little more transparent. This is specific advice for her because of her circumstances.
From a man's point of view - Under these circumstances: If I am taking the kids off your hands and trying to free up your time so that you can get some work done to help us out of the tough financial situation we're in... How do you think I'm going to react or feel if I perceive you are taking that time to get dressed up and go out to have fun instead? I would be angry. I would be resentful. With that anger and resentment I could justify to myself why I'm walking away. "See! This proves it! She is just as selfish and manipulative as I always though! I'm here busting my butt to get a handle of the financial mess we're in... and what does she do? She dumps the kids so she can go out and enjoy herself. To hell with that!"
Is it wrong? Perhaps... Is this mind reading? Yes.
All of this depends on CIRCUMSTANCES. You can be both mysterious and open. Her H has an irregular schedule. He has his job and he is doing a part-time business. It comes down to timing. There is a time where it is GOOD to be mysterious and a time where it is detrimental.
Flo knows this and this is all I pointed out to her. She is a discerning and wise woman. ALMOST as wise as you Kalni
Now before I "talk" myself into a hole... all I'm saying is be a little more open when "mystery" could create resentment and anger instead of curiosity.
