Coach, can you really say that you don't need your W? Don't you have those needs? And doesn't your W provide them?
Yes, I don't need her to be me.
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sex, affection, intimate conversation, certain kinds of companionship, easily togetherness within one's home, etc.
These are wants. Someone who is single is not complete? A widow/widower is less of a person?
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No one else could be a mother to our children.
We adopted our daughter and are every bit her parents. Doesn't diminish her birth mother.
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I will always rely on H to be a father to my children, and if he dies or doesn't fulfil that role I will have no way of making that OK for my children.
It's not your job to make things OK for other people.
When you start depending on other people for needs that are your responsibility then the relationship becomes unhealthy.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
