No one has yet shown me how I can enforce boundaries legally.
What do you mean? What is it you have WANTED to do, but couldn't, because it was illegal?
Sorry Ken, but I call "B.S." on this. Show me where YOU have wanted to do something strong . .. firm . . . but simply COULDN'T, because it was illegal.
The fact is, YOU DON'T REALLY WANT TO, because you're afraid to stand up to your wife.