How would you piece this?

[dday101798]

Mystik, honey, I hope you woke up this morning and had a BIG azz cup of coffee and rethought this thing through.

There is no way in the world you can take any talk of him wanting to reconcille seriously while still with the OP, PERIOD. My (x)W did the same, and each time, while still with OM, my answer was "I don't think so, I refuse to be 'freinds' with my W/(x)W and work towards something better while she is with someone else".

As already said, piecing is HARD. I didn't eve see anywhere here: do you forgive him yet? Do forgive and accept his A and what he's done to you, your son and family as a whole?

I'm sorry, he may be 'serious', my (x)W was too. But it would have NEVER worked for us before, not like that. Even now, I forgive, I accept, I love her with all my heart as does she me, but it ain't easy. I still question, I still have insecurity.

Now, that is just the part between US.

What about the 3rd person in this equation, and I don't mean OW, I mean your son.

How are you going to explain this proposed living arragement? More importantly, how are you going to handle damage control in the event that this arrangement is just a convenience factor for your XH?

And since I say convenience factor, I feel that should be thought about just as much as your son. It's better for him financially to share a 3 bedroom versus seperate lving? As I told my (x)W in her teater-totter days, that's just tuff, becase that's what you wanted when you left me, seperate living, permanently!