Are regrets when you end a separation normal?

[june72]

OTMT, IF you look back to the beginning of your posts I think you will gain some insight. You seemed hopeless, doubtful and in despair. You are such a changed man! And I am really liking this new person you are- alot!
It took a process to get you where you are now. It took time and lots of hard work. It was not an aha moment.

Let her get to that point too.

I think one of the hardest things in marraige repair is waiting for the other person to "catch up" with the enlightenment you have, ya know? I don't think that most people are on the same page that often. They will get there but I think one is ususaly ahead.


Also, don't forget the normal backslides. It well know that 2 steps forward, 1 step back analogy applies to rebuilding a marriage it is not a linear journey upward.

At the very minimum you will never regret working on your marraige. Do it for her but do it for you too. Meaning find pride and peace that you are putting in the effort. Regardless of the outcome. I am pretty darn certain in your sitch though the outcome will be positive with continued effort.