Ditto on what Sandi said, especially on the forgiveness portion for the betrayed spouse. I've seen a few folks 'piecing' that still carry that anger at the WAS for the A and simply don't understand how they CAN be piecing? To me it's more like a lava flow under a sleeping volcano, will it subside or will there be an eruption?
Additionaly, in the beginning of our re-birth, I would have liked for 'transparency' with (x)W, but without computers involved and a tight nit town, it all works anyway. I admit to checking her phone log a couple times, conversely, I'm certain she has checked mine, so it's fair. However, the major relief is that (x)W has been open, sometimes more than I wish for in regards to her A with OM, that helps.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11