Gardener, I hope that you find that book as healing as I have. There was so much in there that I hope will validate why you feel the way you do, how and why we seem to get stuck (in reality, it's just that we need more time to do the work necessary to resolve that particular stage, or that something has triggered a brief return visit!), and how to cooperate with the healing process and come thru all of this scarred but stronger and with more capacity for love.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012