I've researched both TX and WA and found Texas to be preferable. I think I should also look into MI as that is where my family lives and I probably will go back there if H goes on to WA without us.
I haven't talked to a lawyer yet, but I have made a list of names/numbers and plan to get started on that after my first counseling session which happens to be tomorrow.
Still, I need a good idea of how to respond to all this late-night communication going on between H and OW. I want it to stop, i feel it is inappropriate, but I don't want to push them into going even more secretive with their communication. I don't want to be the jealous harpy wife either (although that's what I feel like at the moment). I have this huge urge to snoop through his computer, his phone, etc and I am trying to avoid that as it will cause more conflict and push him away. I feel really insecure right now.
