WAW and the law of attraction

[Gnosis]

Plus you expose quickly.... We are talking 10 minutes... Tops...

Yes to this. You make your statement and leave. You do not wait to listen to whatever lies she has prepared. The same applies to whomever you expose to.

"My W / your daughter/sister is committing adultery with a married man who has two children. She is busy destroying two marriages. I have proof of this. I will be taking out the appropriate measures to protect myself and my marriage. I'm not doing this out of revenge. Please trust me on this. Things will seem crazy over the coming days. I ask that you do not take sides during this time and support our M not the infidelity."

That's it. Not too much information. State the facts and leave. You DO NOT need to over explain and make excuses.

Wife sent an email from a different email address <snip> Should I worry about this?

Yes, you should stop worrying about this. You cannot control her and trying to will drive you crazy. You have your evidence. You have your sanity restored. If you've lost your source of intelligence then you've lost it. At least you know the truth now.

I'm considering dropping the bomb as soon as tomorrow, Thursday.

Can you see that you are panicking? You have a plan, stick to it. What difference is one day going to make in the whole scheme of things? Not much. If you want to step up and move quicker then transfer the money sooner.

But what's making me more angry is to learn how the whole affair was aided and almost induced by her best friend.
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I have to confess I'm feeling very angry about my W Bestfriend

And what use is this anger? None. One of the valuable lessons you are going to learn through this ordeal is to make CONSTRUCTIVE use of your anger. You're going to learn restraint and self-control. Yes, this sucks. Yes, it's extremely painful. But make the best of the worst.

Should I confront her at some point?

At some point... yes... AFTER you have broken up the affair.

I know anger is not the way to resolve anything. Pls help. Really tempted to expose her BF.

You know this.

What do you hope to achieve by exposing to her BF? Self justification and projecting your anger onto BF.
What will it really achieve? NOTHING.

Frac, everything you do is going to have consequences. It is your job to discern GOOD consequences from BAD ones. Reacting out of anger, hurt and pain hardly ever results in good consequences. This is why you RESPOND. For now your RESPONSE to BF is dead silence. BF is not your friend she is your enemy, treat her accordingly.

Keep doing what you have been doing with everything else: THINK before you ACT. Every ACTION you take has PURPOSE. If the purpose is self-gratification or simply venting your anger then it is pointless. Use that energy constructively in the gym.